If, as mother’s, we weren’t pressured enough in today’s society, we also all somehow fit into categories and subcategories of types and styles, because goodness forbid we just be plain old “mama’s.”
Turns out, a majority of us are either “silky” or ”crunchy.”
Silky mamas tend to be the ”modern” mother who prefer medicated hospital birth, bottle feeding/part time breastfeeding, disposable diapers, crib sleeping, etc. A mama who follows the advice of established medical authority and often tend to be working moms who rely on modern products for convenience and time management.
Crunchy mamas, on the other hand, are ones who support homebirth, breastfeeding, baby wearing, cloth diapering, co-sleeping, gentle discipline, etc. Also, a mama who questions established medical authority and tends to be vegetarian and/or prepare all-organic foods.
Well, guys, if I’m going to be honest here, I’m in the “scrunchy” mama group.
Scrunchy mama’s are a mix of both, and I have decided I fall smack dab in the middle. I absolutely love breastfeeding, cloth diapering, baby wearing (when she allows), and co-sleeping. But, I also believe in medicated births, vaccinate our children, and we most definitely eat meat.
Luci was born via full epidural, bottle fed on formula after three months, and almost always co-slept with us.
Jax was two half failed epidurals, exclusively breastfed until 18 months, and always co-slept.
Alvi Lou was all natural, also exclusively breastfed up until 13 ish months, and recently we’ve been working on sleeping in her baby swing or crib but she mostly still sleeps with us.
When it comes to Luci, I was a young mom with few friends and I didn’t have much knowledge on breastfeeding or resources for it. So, when she refused after 3 months, I didn’t even realize I could pump and put it in her bottle. Looking back now, it seems like super simple, common knowledge, but I digress.
We did recently venture into the chicken parent group, but aside from that, a majority of our food is store bought. I never puréed fresh veggies or fruits for the kids. We do purchase a cow/half a cow from local farmers, and we do our best to make sure the kids eat healthy. But, just like many others, I tend to fall short, and that is okay.
Nowadays, it feels like there is a label for every single move we make. Not just as parents, but as people, too. Sometimes I get it, and sometimes I don’t.
All I know, is that here, there is no judgement. You’re free to be whoever, and choose however you see fit for you, not only as a person, but a parent, too.