Updated: Feb 25
This looks to be a small and insignificant space in my home, but it is by far one of the most profound and important right now. It promotes the self care routine I’ve established for myself.
Hardly two months ago, it is a shame to tell you how long my hair would stay in the same unbrushed, unkept, unwashed bun. Days, guys. We are talking several days. Gross, right?
The last time I had washed my face? The honest answer is I wouldn’t have had a clue. In my defense, though, I did still shower, but I was hardly ever wearing make-up so I didn’t find it necessary.
The worst is how hard it was to remember to brush my teeth. Huge shout out to Brett for sticking with my nasty breath. Yes, I could have just done it while the kids did theirs but it was already such a chore just to get theirs done I wasn’t about to try and do mine, too.
Fastforward to now, and I brush my hair daily, wash it every two to three days, my face is washed nightly, and my teeth darn near sparkle. I made the choice to switch from drinking nothing but soda and coffee, to pushing water and only 1-2 cups of coffee a day. I changed my eating habits and do my best to eat less sweets and more healthy and nutritious meals.
Doing these things promote self care for myself. What you do may look different, but whatever you do for yourself is so important. We tend to get so wrapped up in taking care of others we forget about ourselves. But we matter, too, and the better we feel about ourselves, the more likely we are to succeed and conquer the day ahead.
When I get up in the morning I put make-up on. Why? Simple. I like it. I like the way it looks and how it makes me feel about myself. Maybe you’re someone who loves the way you look without it, and that’s okay, too. You have to choose what makes you feel most like you. You don’t need to do what everyone else does to maintain your self care, only focus on the things that are right for you.
Heck, if I knew how to contour my face and I had false lashes, you can bet that I’d do it and wear them. Not because I don’t feel like my face is pretty enough, but simply because I like the way it looks. There’s absolutely no shame in that either.
I spent so much time neglecting myself that when I flipped the script, the change in how I felt was instantaneous. My self esteem skyrocketed and it feels good to feel good about me, myself, and I.
Believe it or not, house work comes easier. Making meals for the family is easier. Daily tasks that used to have me wishing my days away are easier. So. Much. Easier.
There are still rough days, as you’ve probably already read about, but getting through the day with my needs met, too, comes a lot more naturally than it did before. There’s a lot to be said about the way we care for our families, and we have to include ourselves in there, too.
Maybe you’re someone who already does these things, and that’s awesome! I’m proud of you, because it takes time, work, and effort! But, if you’re like I was, I challenge you to make a change. Even something small just to get the ball rolling.
Make a better choice for you and watch the chaos around you begin to change. It looks different, feels different, it is different. A good different.